From the cook outs that i’ve been to, sitting outside talking to one another while enjoying the weather has been the most common. When it gets dark though looking at the stars is the best way to go.
If it’s nice out, we sit around a fire pit and chat. If not, we’re inside and one of our good friends that is usually at every occasion at our house plays the piano. Occasionally all or some will stand around the piano and sing but usually it’s just Robert playing jazz or whatever he’s in the mood for.